Some people need you to struggle so that their life makes sense. I am tired of hearing struggle framed like it is a personality trait or a rite of passage everyone is supposed to accept. I grew up in it. I lived it again as an adult. No safety net, no fallback plan, no one coming to catch me if I failed. When you have already lived that version of life and you know you deserve more out of like, you stop glorifying it very quickly . You stop calling it "just how life is". You stop pretending it builds character. You start asking why people keep defending something that only drains them. Most people do not choose struggle because they actually want to suffer. They choose it because they get tired or were simply born into it and it's all they know. Tired of trying things that do not immediately work. Tired of hoping something will change. Tired of being disappointed. Eventually they pick a version of life that feels manageable, and once they pick it, they have to believe ...
You’re not afraid of failing. You’ve failed many times before and learned how to survive there. What you’re actually afraid of is what happens if things work consistently, because success doesn’t just change your circumstances. It forces a change in who you are in every area of your life. Fear of success usually shows up in the choices you make to keep things comfortable and familiar. It looks like… revisiting the same conversations instead of setting boundaries. staying in dynamics where you’re needed instead of respected. continuing patterns you’ve already outgrown because changing would require you to show up differently and risk discomfort. In business, this looks like reworking things that are already clear, keeping roles you should have let go of, and avoiding decisions that would require you to be consistent instead of flexible. In relationships, it looks like staying connected to people who know the old version of you, because the new version would ...