Some people need you to struggle so that their life makes sense.
I am tired of hearing struggle framed like it is a personality trait or a rite of passage everyone is supposed to accept. I grew up in it. I lived it again as an adult.
No safety net, no fallback plan, no one coming to catch me if I failed. When you have already lived that version of life and you know you deserve more out of like, you stop glorifying it very quickly. You stop calling it "just how life is". You stop pretending it builds character. You start asking why people keep defending something that only drains them.
Most people do not choose struggle because they actually want to suffer. They choose it because they get tired or were simply born into it and it's all they know. Tired of trying things that do not immediately work. Tired of hoping something will change. Tired of being disappointed. Eventually they pick a version of life that feels manageable, and once they pick it, they have to believe that version is normal. Bills being stressful becomes normal. Being unhappy at work becomes normal. Wanting more gets labeled 'a pipe dream'. That belief system is what keeps them sane.
The problem is when someone refuses that belief.
When you decide you are not willing to live like that anymore, it makes people uncomfortable, because your choices force them to look at the moment they stopped trying. It reminds them that what they call maturity might actually just be 'giving up' or settling.
I learned early that “good enough” is only good enough for the person willing to settle there. When you want more out of life, your standards change. What feels stable to someone else can feel suffocating to you. What someone calls peace can feel like stagnation when you know you are capable of building more. That difference in perspective is where the tension comes from, and no amount of explaining will fix it.
I did not wake up doing what I do now.
I started with an online boutique. I tried something because I had to. I paid attention, learned and grew because failure was not an option. When I saw it working, I scaled. I sacrificed in other areas so I could give one thing a real chance to succeed. That choice alone puts you in a different category, because most people want results without commitment and growth without discomfort.
Once you stop dabbling and actually commit, people start reacting to you differently. They tell you to slow down. They warn you not to put all your energy into one thing. They frame their fear as concern. What they are really reacting to is the fact that you are still pushing while they decided to coast. Your consistency highlights their pause, and that makes them uneasy.
I am not interested in struggle. I am interested in stability. I am interested in not worrying about which bill gets paid first. I am interested in my kids growing up without the anxiety I grew up with. That means I am willing to give things up temporarily. Free time. Distractions. Sometimes comfort. Sometimes dating, because I understand that building something real requires focus.
Some people need you to struggle because it validates the life they accepted. If you make it out without breaking yourself, their story...their belief falls apart. That is not your responsibility to manage.
I am not here to bond over being stuck. I am not here to make struggle sound noble. I am here to build a life that actually works, and I am not going back to the version where just surviving was the goal.
If this hit, it is probably because you are at that same breaking point where “good enough” stopped feeling good at all. You are at the stage where motivation does nothing because what you actually need is clarity, structure, and a plan that does not require you to burn your life down to make progress.
I work with women who are done surviving, starting over, and pretending struggle is normal.
Together, we identify what actually matters, cut out what is draining your time and energy, and build something stable that can grow without you stressing and burning out and it starts with deciding that struggle is no longer the price of admission for your life.
If you are ready to start building a life that actually works with you, not against you, book an advisory call. → 90DFA – She Rich Digital
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