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Sis, It’s Time to Rebuild and Step Into That Confidence You Deserve

Over the last few years, life has been giving me lessons I didn’t even ask for. I was married for five years (we’d been together even longer), and recently, my husband and I decided to part ways.


I’m not gonna lie—this new chapter has been uncomfortable. Like, really uncomfortable. 

But it’s also been the kind of discomfort that forces you to grow. 

For so long, I felt like I wasn’t fully me in that relationship. Now? I’m rediscovering who I am. Which I guess is perfect timing because I’ll be 30 next year.  

I’m focused on rebuilding and showing up for myself again. 🫶🏽✨
And let me tell you, it feels so good. 

I’m starting to see myself in the mirror and recognize the woman I’ve always been. 

If you’re feeling stuck, unsure, or like you’ve lost yourself, sis, you’re not alone. I’ve been there too, and I’m here to help you find your way back to you.


Let’s Talk About Confidence


Confidence doesn’t mean you have it all figured out. 


It’s about showing up for yourself in the small, everyday moments. It’s about taking care of your mind, your body, and your space so you can feel good from the inside out.


If you’re ready to rebuild, here’s what’s been working for me:

1. Journaling My Way Back to Me


Every morning, I start with journaling and taking a few minutes to reflect—sometimes it’s a gratitude list, sometimes it’s just writing out how I feel. 


This has been my lifeline through this process, especially on those tough days. 


If you’ve never tried journaling, this one is good and simple one to start with. It helps with focusing more on the good and reminding yourself of how far you’ve come.


2. Glowing Up, Literally


You know the saying—when you look good, you feel good. And girl, it’s true. I’ve been working on clearing up my skin lately, and using this lemon turmeric soap has been a game-changer. 


It’s a small step, but seeing my skin glow again has given me a confidence boost I didn’t know I needed.


3. Shifting My Energy at Home


Let’s not sleep on the power of your environment. I’ve been freshening up my space lately with this warm fragrance plug-in, and it’s wild how much the right scent can shift your mood. 


It’s fall scented and it’s my favorite time of year. 


It’s not just about making your space smell good—it’s about creating a vibe that feels peaceful and empowering.


4. Taking Care of My Body, Inside and Out


Here’s the tea: confidence starts from within. I’ve been focusing on my health lately, and adding this probiotic to my routine has been a total game-changer. 


It’s helped me feel lighter, less bloated, and just better overall. 


Taking care of yourself physically does wonders for your mental state too.


5. Saying Yes to Me


This one is big. Whether it’s getting out of the house, trying something new, or doing things that make me slightly uncomfortable (but in a good way), I’ve been learning to put myself first.


Rebuilding self-confidence isn’t an overnight thing—it’s built in those small, consistent moments where you choose yourself over your doubts.


Sis, It’s Time to Glow Up


Rebuilding my sense of self has been a process, but I can tell you this—every step forward has been worth it.


I’m walking into rooms differently, speaking up more, and learning to love more on the woman I’m becoming.


And you can do this too. Start with one small thing today—like grabbing a journal, treat your skin with care, set the vibe in your space, or invest in your health. 


You don’t have to do it all at once. Just start. ✨

- Ashli 🫶🏽


Sis, you deserve to feel confident, empowered, and fully you. Let’s make it happen.


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