For the first time in months, I feel like me again. I finally got my spark back in business and it came from doing the one thing we were all taught to feel guilty for… being selfish.
Women, especially moms and recovering people-pleasers, are raised to feel like the world will stop spinning if we stop saying yes. You spend years prioritizing everyone else’s needs… your kids, your clients, your friends and before you know it, you don’t even make your own list.
That was me.
My mental was shot.
I was burnt out, irritated, and over it.
Everything started to feel like a job, even the things I built out of passion. That’s how I knew I was in the danger zone. When the work that used to excite you starts feeling like punishment, that’s not laziness. That’s your body saying “I’m done performing.” (P.s. it’s depression read about that — here.)
Then my cycle hit and forced me to sit TF down. It was rough, but that week in the house changed everything about my mental state. I didn’t go anywhere I didn’t want to. I didn’t overextend. I didn’t explain. I just… said no.
And you know what? The world didn’t end.
I was still a mom. Still a friend. Still a sister.
But I was doing things because I wanted to, not because I felt obligated to.
One morning, after dropping my kids off, I opened my laptop and started writing. I hadn’t touched my blog in months, but something told me to talk about depression in Black women…what it looks like, how it hides, how it creeps in while we’re “holding it together.”
When I finished that post, I felt like I could breathe again.
That’s when it hit me, it was a reminder. That I’m called to speak. To shift perspectives. To move women. I just haven’t been walking in that purpose because life’s been life-ing, and I got stuck in survival mode.
But that week of stillness flipped everything.
Sales went up.
Engagement went up.
My peace went way up.
And everybody who truly loves me? Still right where they were.
We’ve got to talk about killing these people-pleasing tendencies. We’ve got to talk about healing abandonment wounds and breaking those “I gotta be needed” habits. Because girl that stuff doesn’t just drain your spirit, it kills your success.
If your mind isn’t right, your money won’t be either.
That relationship, that overworking, that constant pouring… it’s blocking your bag more than you realize.
So yea, it’s NO-vember.
And if being selfish is what saves your peace, your sanity, and your business?
Then here’s your permission to be selfish as hell. Give it to your damn self.
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Baby girl, your spark isn’t gone, it’s buried under all the bs you keep saying yes to.
It’s time to say no to burnout and yes to your bounce back.
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