Navigating Life Shifts: Taking Time to Heal and Learn About Yourself

Sis, if you’re reading this, chances are you’re going through some major emotional shifts, just like I am right now.

Life’s got a way of throwing curveballs, doesn’t it?

I’m currently navigating a major life change, and let me tell you, it’s been a wild ride. But here’s the thing: as much as it feels uncomfortable, it’s been an opportunity to dig deeper into myself and figure out what’s been keeping me stuck, emotionally.

Like, I’ve been learning about validation – you know, that need for someone to tell you that you’re enough, that you’re doing alright.

But I’ve realized that seeking that validation from others, especially when I haven’t given it to myself first, is a recipe for disaster. It got me thinking about how my emotional reactions are tied to old patterns, like attachment styles.

If you’ve ever heard of “disorganized avoidant” or “fearful avoidant,” let me tell you—those hit a little too close to home.

I was reading through some material the other day, and I couldn’t help but laugh at myself. Not because it was funny, but because it was real AF.

The more I read, the more I saw parts of myself I’ve been ignoring, avoiding, or just flat-out running from.

My coping mechanisms? Whew. Girl, don’t even get me started. We’ve all got them, whether it’s shutting down emotionally, pushing people away, or pretending everything’s fine when it’s not.

But here’s the thing: this is the work. This is where growth happens. I know it can feel heavy, maybe even a little isolating, but I want you to know you’re not alone.

If you’re dealing with your own emotional life shifts—whether it’s a breakup, a job loss, or just feeling lost in general—take this as a sign to slow down, take a deep breath, and start learning about yourself.

My advice?… Time for

You don’t have to have it all figured out right now, girl. It’s okay to take a step back. I’ve realized that in times of emotional chaos, I’ve had to prioritize me.

Whether that’s taking a few days to recharge or setting boundaries with people who drain my energy—do what you need to do.

Your healing comes from the space you create for yourself. Rest is NOT a sign of weakness, sis. It’s actually a necessary part of the process.

Let me keep it real with you: we all have parts of ourselves that need work. It’s okay to admit it.

We’ve all got things that need healing, whether it’s tI’ve been doing this work too, and let me tell you—some more than others. But just the fact that you’re aware of these things and are willing to heal is a huge step already on the right path.

I know this road is tough, but I’m right here with you.

Don’t let these emotional shifts break you down. Let them build you up. Take the time to learn about yourself, heal, and move forward stronger than ever.

This is your season!

- Ash 🫶🏽✨

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